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Lean In or Retreat?

Sheryl Sandberg is currently advocating in her book Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead, that women should go towards opportunities. I agree that women shouldn’t hold themselves back, but I think that there are times when women should retreat.

You see going full steam ahead without conscious thought, enough physical, spiritual or psychological resource, can be more damaging than doing nothing.

Have you ever?

  • been up all night with poorly children and then had to work the next day
  • had to deal with a family or relationship crisis while being all smiles at work
  • felt unwell but afraid to take a day off

The fact is on days like those above, the answer is not to lean in, but retreat.

Think of it like a battle, when your soldiers are injured and depleted you don’t go into attack, do you?

The dictionary defines ‘retreat ‘as

*The act or process of withdrawing, especially from something hazardous, formidable, or unpleasant.

*A place affording peace, quiet, privacy, or security

*A period of seclusion, retirement, or solitude.

*Withdrawal of a military force from a dangerous position or from an enemy attack.

Sometimes you need to go back to go forward, so you at least have a fighting chance.

Retreating is the answer if:

  • You are at a turning point in your life
  • Seeking clarity or insight
  • Wanting to dive deeply within
  • You want to reconnect your inner life to your outer life
  • Slowing your life down
  • Needing rest, deep relaxation, healing and rejuvenation

How you do it is your choice, but here are a five ideas:

  1. Journaling
  2. Getting closer to nature
  3. Meditating/Mindfulness practice
  4. Yoga
  5. Taking a few days to take part in a retreat

When you are back to feeling fully resourceful and know what you want, then of course, take Sheryl’s advice and Lean In.

From the 11th-15th July, I will be leading a  Life Coaching Retreat at the Premier Luxury Mountain Resort, Bansko, Bulgaria. Come along to Relax, Re-energise and Refocus. See this video for more information

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

The best time to be a female entrepreneur is NOW!

In 2011 a Government survey found that the growth in number of female entrepreneurs had stalled and that their numbers decline the more successful the ventures they set up become.

It discovered that only 14 per cent of small and medium-sized firms are women-led, the same as in 2007, the authoritative government survey of 4,500 businesses found.

While 21 per cent of start-ups in 2010 involved female founders, the proportion fell to 13 per cent for small firms employing more than 10 people and only eight per cent of all medium-sized companies.

So with these statistics in mind you might wonder why I endeavored to deliver a talk toCostaWomen, a thriving, award winning women’s network in Spain founded by Ali Meehanentitled The best time to be a female entrepreneur is NOW!

 

 

 

 

Well here are the 5 reasons that I shared on why I think that the best time to be a female entrepreneur is NOW!

  1. Feminine skills in feminine structures

Women are collaborators, we are heavily engaged, motivational, and extremely well suited to emerging, less hierarchical workplace rather than traditional large male structures found in the majority of large corporate organisations. In addition women have an eye on the future, we are concerned with the legacy we leave for the next generation, rather than short term gain.

  1. Women do the majority of the buying and we know how women think!

Women control 83% of all consumer purchases, including consumer electronics, health care and cars. Forward-looking companies understand they need women to figure out how to market to women. As women we know how women think nad have a direct link to our customers.

  1. Access to capital is easier

These days its unlikely that you’ll need a huge investment to get your business up and running with crowd funding and angel investors its easier than its ever been to by pass banks to get the seed funding that you need.

  1. Location doesn’t matter

You don’t have to be in Silicon Valley to start a business in 2013. You can even do it from your bedroom where many online businesses started. I coach clients online wherever they are in the world.

5. Achieving Work Life Balance

A recent LinkedIn Survey found that women value work-life balance more than salary or position. Entrepreneurship offers more flexibility to juggle work with your other responsibilities, such as a 3 day week, at night after the kids go to bed, or even from a coffee shop.

However, women are still holding themselves back, a third of the female population would start a business if it wasn’t for the fear of failure (‘Global Entrepreneurship Monitor’ London Business School, 2003)

I also shared in my talk the 3 A’s on how to combat this fear.  You’ll have to come along to one of my talks to find them out, or sign up for my newsletter as I’ll be sharing a resource on this very soon.

I’ll leave you with a video of my interview on Spanish TV, Mijas 3.40

and my radio interview on ItalkFM Radio in Spain with Verenina Conti

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

Mum who is the main breadwinner and a Dad who supports the rest of the family needed for leading washing brand video

I have been contacted by Candid Casting who are seeking a real family with a working Mum and stay at home/part time working Dad for a leading washing brand’s video.

Time is of the essence as they will be shooting this on 20th and 21st April !

Here are the details, please contact them (not me) for any further information as I am just passing or their enquiry and have no involvement in this:

‘Exciting opportunity to share your real life stories in a documentary-style video for a leading brand of detergent!  We are looking for busy, active families with two or more children aged 5-13.  We need a Mum who is the main breadwinner and a Dad who supports the rest of the family.  This doesn’t involve any acting as we want your real stories and personalities to shine!  If you, or any friends fit the bill, please contact Claire on 0207 490 8882/ Claire@candidcasting.co.uk.

Please send a family photo and give us a brief description of your home and work situation.  You will be compensated for your time and given a copy of the finished film to share with all the family!’

Many thanks in advance!

Claire Bleasdale

Candid Casting

How I became one of LinkedIn UK’s Top 10 Power Women

Top 10 LinkedIn Uk Power Women

The UK’s Most engaged Women on LinkedIn

I was delighted to be contacted by LinkedIn UK last week, and be advised that I was one of their Top 10 Power Women !

As you can imagine, I was surprised, LinkedIn has over 10 million members in the UK, so this really is an accolade.

I am not sure if there is a magic pill to getting on to this list, but I’d like to share with you what I think enabled me to be chosen:

1. A full profile.

That includes as much detail as you want to share, what you do, qualifications, presentations, videos and it must include a photo of you.  Let your personality shine through

Health Warning: People do not trust profiles without images.  It also helps you to be memorable. Get that photo uploaded today

2. Group Creation.

I have set up three groups, which I manage.

What I love about groups is that you bring your tribe together.  You attract people who are interested in the same things that you are.  Groups are a great source of ideas, feedback, challenge and support.  Here are my groups, feel free to join one of them if it’s of interest to you:

Health Warning: Groups do take quite a lot of work to get off the ground, you will need to stimulate conversation, you may even be talking to yourself for a while until your group members decide they want to interact.  You will also need to respond to an ever growing number of comments, but its worth it.

3. Consistency

People will need to see you regularly to get to know you, you should really be posting daily.  Secondly your message should be consistent.

Health Warning: If one of your posts appears conservative and another outrageous, the audience wont trust this schizophrenic behaviour. Use your authentic voice.

4.  Quality posting

Join groups that are of interest to you, comment on others posts and start discussions.

Health warning:  Don’t just post your blogs or relevant articles without comment, add your opinion or a question to demonstrate why you are posting and your perspective.

What does success look like?

Well I attended an event recently and a chap came up to me who I’d never met before and said,

‘I know you, you are Jenny Garrett who post interesting articles on … LinkedIn group, you have a book Rocking Your Role’

I had never met him, but he knew me, all through the power of my LinkedIn profile!

Secrets of a LinkedIn Uk Top 10 Power Woman

To celebrate my Top 10 Power Woman status, I am running a one off online session in which I will share with you my LinkedIn success secrets.

You will learn:

*How to create a memorable profile

*How buzzing and thriving groups are crafted

*How to be consistently present on Linked, while only taking a few minutes your day

*How to make LinkedIn work for you

The price is only £49 and the session will take place on 1st May at 12pm GMT

Pre work and Post Session tips will be provided, as a well as a copy of the presentation.

Book here

The session will be recorded, so you can book and watch it later if you cant make the date and time.

**Please note that this is a one off sharing of my expertise, I will not be repeating this session**

Any questions get in touch +44 (0) 844 776 4744 or email jenny@reflexion-uk.co.uk

Lean In with…….Chocolate

Sheryl Sandberg Lean In groups

Sheryl Sandberg Lean In groups

There has been a lot of talk about Sheryl Sandberg’s new book, telling women to ‘Lean in’.  By encouraging women to ‘lean in’, Sheryl is encouraging women not to sabotage their own careers by shying away from the top jobs, but lean in to the opportunities instead.  I was interested to find that she is planning to launch ‘Lean in’ groups for women.

This is a great idea, although Inge Woudstra from Mum & Career and I had thought of it first!

We are running 3 hour Saturday morning sessions where women can benefit from networking and putting strategies together to advance their personal and professional lives.

These sessions will be expertly facilitated by us – we are trained action learning facilitators.

They are not just a talking shop or tea and sympathy but action oriented, experience packed events to take you towards your goals.

What’s even more exciting is the venue is Daskalides Belgian chocolatier in Covent Garden.

I am sure the smell of chocolate will help our creative juices flow.

Daskalides chocolatier in Covent Garden.

Lean in with Chocolate – Creative Solution Groups

Daskalides chocolatier in Covent Garden.

Venue for Creative Solution Groups askalides chocolatier in Covent Garden.

The first event will take place on Saturday 4th May.

You can take advantage of the early bird price until 1st April

You can book here, or call me on 0844 776 4744 for more information

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

Just had to show off this venue

Lovely venue_Womens Leadership Success programme

Venue for Women’s Leadership Success programme 4th March_Jenny Garrett

As soon as I saw this venue I fell in love with it and knew that it would be ideal for my Women’s Leadership Success Programme taking place on 4th March, 2013.

Maybe it was the plump red leather chairs or the intimate yet decadent atmosphere.  One thing is for certain when women invest in themselves for a day, they should be comfortable and well looked after and I know they will be.

I am delighted to say that the programme is sold out, we limit it to 8 participants, but actually have 9 on this occasion!

If you would like to add your name to the waiting list, we will advise you of when the next programme will take place. I am looking at dates, but is likely to be around June time.

Here’s what you’ll be missing this time:

  • 9am   Welcome and Intro               Jenny Garrett
  • Being Guilt-Free                                Amber Khan
  • Break   10.45am
  • 11am  Life -Style Management      Joanna Pieters
  • Intro Rocking Your Role process  Jenny Garrett
  • 1pm  Lunch
  • 2pm  Money Management              Andrew Priestley
  • 2.45pm  Self – Leadership               Jenny Garrett
  • 3.30pm  Break
  • Creative Solutions                            Jenny Garrett
  • Action Planning                               Jenny Garrett
  • 5pm   Close

and the women who attend will come away with:

  • Increased Confidence in their ability to cope and succeed
  • Freedom from the shackles of guilt, resentment and shame
  • Improved sense of psychological, physical and spiritual Well-Being
  • Sense of Direction and Purpose
  • Community and Belonging through the Support of the group
  • An ILM (Institute of Leadership & Management) certificate

I know that this wonderful environment will contribute to making all that happen, alongside expert facilitation and knowledge.

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

‘Don’t women just want to marry a rich man’?

Jenny Garrett_launch of Skirts & Ladders

Photos at the launch of Skirts & Ladders

I had the pleasure of being asked to speak at the launch of Lily Dey’s women’s network Skirts & Ladders. Lily defines her network as a dynamic environment designed to release the potential of early career women and accelerate their journeys as future leaders. Her first event was a book club with a twist.

The women were encouraged to read the selected book in advance, namely Rocking Your Role. I delivered a short talk, about why I wrote the book and my passion for supporting women who are the main earner. This was then followed by discussions around a series of themes that the book highlighted, which were facilitated by an experienced group coach.

The venue was excellent, and so were the bubbles, but most importantly the quality conversations that ensued were what it was all about.

A lovely Japanese journalist attended, her name was Akane, and she was astounded at seeing women being proud of making their own money, she asked me ‘Don’t women just want to marry a rich man?‘  I had to think about it, ‘We probably would like to‘ I replied, ‘but the reality is that we all have to earn now and there are fantastic things about that, that we can celebrate.’ What do you think, are we kidding ourselves, if the fairy tale prince came along would you be willing to stay at home and play the role of homemaker? Are we just making the most of a bad situation? I know that I am so aligned with my work that I couldn’t imagine being fulfilled without, but maybe you feel differently. Would love to know your thoughts.

Akane was inspired by the event and will be guest blogging here soon, so watch this space.

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

130 Vs 70/20/10

Andrew Priestley is one of the guest speakers on my Women’s Leadership Success programme taking place on 4th March, 2013

Below he shares his thoughts on why we should all be living by the 70/20/10 rule

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Most Brits spend 130% of their take-home weekly pay. This means that they are funding the additional 30% on credit cards, loans and store charge cards. This quickly becomes a long term cash-debt problem.
And sadly, it is self-inflicted.
There are several key reasons why debt occurs but the biggest causes are spending more than you earn i.e., living beyond your means; and spending more than you need to. The one that bugs me the most is buying stuff you don’t really need. For example, bright, shiny, new stuff.
I was recently in an electronics store and I overheard a young married couple arguing over whether or not to buy a gaming console and 3D TV. They were weighing up a 15 month non-payment loan.
But it can be really benign stuff. Recent food shopping research shows that people spend nearly 40% more than they need to at the weekly grocery shopping expedition … if they don’t use a shipping list.
Fortunately, debt is something that you can cycle out of. In my experience you can be well on the way to debt-free with 90 days but it takes commitment and energy.
The starting point is to learn to live on 70% of your take home pay. 10% you should save. And 20% you should use to reduce debts.
In addition, you can sell any stuff that you no longer need. A client recently sold over 100 pairs of shoes she doesn’t wear! She made £350 but that money was used to reduce her credit card bill. A musician sold some sound gear and musical instruments and a) banked £2300, b) paid off a loan and c) emptied his loft and garage.
Two university students followed the 70/20/10 rule for 3 months and booth have surplus cash for the first time ever!
One client reduced her debt and created a nice little nest egg of cash … and then ‘borrowed’ it to her brother who is still to repay her.
In his talk  at the Women’s Leadership Success programme we will explore the 70/20/10 rule and show you ten money managing skills that will get you out of debt and cashed up.

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.comand sign up for my newsletter

5 Reasons Why Women Feel So Guilty

Amber Khan is one of the guest speakers on my Women’s Leadership Success programme taking place on 4th March, 2013

Below she shares her thoughts on why women feel so guilty.

9a59560be6535da6ef20b75b7a52d073Women can feel guilty about any & everything. For many women, the driving force in their lives is guilt. Somewhere along the way, it all becomes a matter of doing it all.

According to a daily mail article, a survey has found that more than 96 per cent of women feel guilty at least once a day, while for almost half, the feeling strikes up to four times a day.

Women tend to…

  • Be perfectionists. You feel guilty because you feel as though you have to live up to unrealistic expectations, and you cannot make mistakes.
  • Blame themselves. If you fail at even the slightest thing, you start to blame yourself for not being good enough. Then you feel guilty for being somehow “lesser than” all those women/mothers who seem to be doing it right.
  • Can’t say No. Throughout history, women have been those who pleased others. Admit it we are people pleasers. Even when you really want to say NO, the only 3 letter word which comes out of your mouth is YES. If you do say No, the feeling immediately turns into guilt.
  • Put others first. We care for our partners, families, friends & co-workers. We do & buy things for them but feel guilty when we consider those things for ourselves or even to take time out for ourselves.
  • Be control freak. We tend to take responsibility of everything at work or at home and shy away from delegating chores. Why? Because we are afraid of losing control. We’d rather boast about our multi-tasking skills than face the music of feeling ill, stressed, overweight & exhausted.

The guilt builds and builds until it becomes not a consequence, but rather, that driving force that keeps you moving forward even as a little piece of you is screaming to slow down, take a deep breath, take it easy, and don’t let life sweep you away with the tidal wave.

Do you recognise any of the above traits in yourself, found yourself nodding away to some?

Come along to the Women’s Leadership Success programme to find strategies to ditch the guilt

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.comand sign up for my newsletter

Floella Benjamins 4 C’s philosophy on life

Floella Benjamin

At the age of 64 Floella Benjamin is still lively and youthful. For those of my generation Floella is best known for being a presenter on the children’s TV show Play School

What you might not know is that on 28 June 2010, Lady Benjamin was introduced to the House of Lords as a Life Peer nominated by the Liberal Democrats with title Baroness Benjamin, of Beckenham in the County of Kent.

In this role Floella is a campaigner for families and especially children. I met Floella once, the experience evoked so many childhood memories that I babbled like a schoolgirl and she politely and kindly smiled at me – I imagine this happens to her all the time.

This week Floella led a talk on Women in the 21st Century at the House of Lords, which I joined online. She shared her 4 C’s philosophy for life and I am sharing them with you below:

1 – Consideration – not to be judgemental – you never know what others situations are, just because they are not reacting in the way you want them to, or by your rules, it doesn’t mean that it’s personal.

2 – Contentment – have a happy and contented heart – don’t be jealous of others, instead learn to live with less. She asked ‘Why are we neglecting our children, why do we always want more?’

3 – Confidence – have high self esteem, high self worth – you need to be able to look in the mirror and say I like that person looking back at me. The more you give, the more you will receive, even if that wasn’t your intention.

4 – Courage – stand up for truth – always stand up for what your believe in!

Floella also mentioned the specific challenges that women have, such as being invisible in the workplace and she said that black women may have to take their foot off the accelerator so not as to be perceived as aggressive in the work place.

Her comment that most resonated with me was ‘women are like babies, throw them in the deep end and they’ll survive’

So what do you think about Floella’s 4C’s? It”s likely one will stand out for you that you will particularly need to work on. Take a look and work out why and what you might need to do.

Looking at 64 year old Floella, this philosophy obviously has anti ageing effects, so its worth a try!

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

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