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Lean In or Retreat?

Sheryl Sandberg is currently advocating in her book Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead, that women should go towards opportunities. I agree that women shouldn’t hold themselves back, but I think that there are times when women should retreat.

You see going full steam ahead without conscious thought, enough physical, spiritual or psychological resource, can be more damaging than doing nothing.

Have you ever?

  • been up all night with poorly children and then had to work the next day
  • had to deal with a family or relationship crisis while being all smiles at work
  • felt unwell but afraid to take a day off

The fact is on days like those above, the answer is not to lean in, but retreat.

Think of it like a battle, when your soldiers are injured and depleted you don’t go into attack, do you?

The dictionary defines ‘retreat ‘as

*The act or process of withdrawing, especially from something hazardous, formidable, or unpleasant.

*A place affording peace, quiet, privacy, or security

*A period of seclusion, retirement, or solitude.

*Withdrawal of a military force from a dangerous position or from an enemy attack.

Sometimes you need to go back to go forward, so you at least have a fighting chance.

Retreating is the answer if:

  • You are at a turning point in your life
  • Seeking clarity or insight
  • Wanting to dive deeply within
  • You want to reconnect your inner life to your outer life
  • Slowing your life down
  • Needing rest, deep relaxation, healing and rejuvenation

How you do it is your choice, but here are a five ideas:

  1. Journaling
  2. Getting closer to nature
  3. Meditating/Mindfulness practice
  4. Yoga
  5. Taking a few days to take part in a retreat

When you are back to feeling fully resourceful and know what you want, then of course, take Sheryl’s advice and Lean In.

From the 11th-15th July, I will be leading a  Life Coaching Retreat at the Premier Luxury Mountain Resort, Bansko, Bulgaria. Come along to Relax, Re-energise and Refocus. See this video for more information

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

How to increase your Spiritual power

Quote: We are not human beings having a spiritual experience...We are spiritual beings having a human experienceI have had feedback from those that have observed me that I am a’spiritual person’.  When I first received this feedback I was a bit resistant to it, as I wasn’t sure what they meant.

I made a connection between spiritual and religion, and wondered how my religion was showing itself in my daily life.

However when I probed to ask what made people say I was a ‘spiritual person’, I was given feedback about being:

  • Centered
  • Connected
  • Intuitive
  • Empathetic
  • In tune with my life purpose
  • Peaceful and serene

…. and it then made sense to me.  I would definitely say that I am deeply connected to my self and what’s important to me.

Now that I am aware of it, I endeavour to increase my Spiritual power.  Here are some ways you can too.

 

1. Meditate

I am a big fan of Samarpan meditation, but whatever you do is fine. You could also practice Mindfulness or just do some breathing exercises.  The idea is that you declutter your mind, still your thoughts and become calm and tap into your inner power.

 2. Spend Time in Nature

Nature is rich with beauty and life, but how often do you notice it or take the time to absorb its energy.  Sitting by a river, walking through some woods, or relaxing against a tree are just some ways to reconnect with the living energy of nature and within your self.

3. Listen to new music. Let your mind wander and write down your thoughts.

In the same way as meditation clears your mind, so does music. Try listening to instrumentals, or to music from a language you don’t understand. This way you can full engage in the music not be taken away by the story that comes from the words.

4. Forgive yourself. You’ve beaten yourself up enough; it’s time to let it go.

When you connect with your spiritual power you can no longer blame yourself, you cannot live in the past only the present.  Part of the process is to unburden.

5. Forgive someone else, this will release you from the pain caused by resentment.

To live in the ‘now‘, as Ekhart Tolle would say, we have to let go of the past and this includes any issues we have with others.

Give it a try, it may be uncomfortable or challenging at first and a continual process of development, but has the potential to be life changing.

I’ll leave you with a quote from Pierre Teilhard de Chardin :

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

Are you a Diva on Demand?

I recently had the pleasure of being asked to be a guest speaker at the 2nd Divas on Demand event at the Museum of London .

Divas on Demand is a networking society that gathers like minded professionals every month to discuss various topics.

The topic for the night I attended was Secrets of Successful women, with themes of relationships and spirituality running through it.

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My fellow speakers were the lovely energetic and vivacious Claudia Liza who is a BBC Three presenter, and exceptionally beautiful Gemma Feare, Miss Jamaica UK

Divas on Demand Panel - Claudia Liza, Gemma Feare and Jenny Garrett

Jenny Garrett speakingView of the audience at Divas on Demand

After, Claudia, Gemma and I shared what we believed were secrets of successful women, questions were addressed to us from the audience, ranging from advice to young women looking for a partner to what we’d say to our 15 years old selves.

It was great fun, in a supportive and encouraging environment.

If you haven’t been along to a Divas on Demand event yet, I highly recommend it…. and it seems men can be Divas too, because many attended.

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

Why you must take a holiday

Why you should take holidays

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I’ve just come back to work from 3 weeks off over the Christmas period, which was fantastic.  I had time with my family, watched films from start to finish, which I rarely do (Horrible Bosses had me laughing out loud, great film if you haven’t seen it) and took long baths and read for pleasure.

I confess, I checked my social media, responded to the odd email but I didn’t attempt to or want to get my teeth into anything workwise.  This took discipline because I run my own business, and it’s really hard to switch off.  Even if you are employed, you know what it’s like.  For me there are always exciting opportunities, collaborations coming my way, conversations that I want to contribute to and new ideas that I want to put into action.

The result?  My first week back has been really productive, I purposefully didn’t book any external meetings, so have been burrowed away in my office.  I called it creative and planning time in my diary.

You know those things that you keep meaning to do but don’t and often end up doing over your holidays, well this week I’ve done those.

Things like writing new assignments for the ILM Coaching and Mentoring Course that I deliver, following up with clients to see their progress, deciding what I will delegate, archiving, actually booking in meetings with those connections that I know I would benefit from chatting over coffee with and putting together a clear strategy for 2013.

What’s even better, is that I have done them with a clear head and relaxed body, I know I have been more productive and the quality of my output has been better than it would have done otherwise.  You see when I get too busy, too tired, I lose my groundedness, my centre, my connection to what’s important.  This is why I take regular time out to make sure that every connection is a good one, that my intentions are connected to what’s important to me: supporting women juggling work and home, particularly those who are the main earner. Ultimately, I want to be the best: wife, mother, daughter, granddaughter, employer, coach, colleague, speaker, author, friend, I can be without losing myself in the process.

So what am I going to do to keep working from this good place:

  1. Meditate at least 3 times a week in order to keep my mind clear and my focus sharp – the Chopra center does a 21 day mediation – only 5 minutes per day which is really effective
  2. Book in my holidays now – if I wait for a gap in the diary it wont come.  I am going to book three holiday slots in my diary when I will not be working.  These don’t have to be exotic holidays, you can be at home if you’re disciplined enough.
  3. Keep delegating – I know that family, friends, colleagues all want to help if I give them the space and guidance to do so.

So what about you? Reach for that diary right now and book those dates out, and feel the weight lift off your shoulders and your productivity improve. Even if you can’t control the amount of holiday you take, make sure that you take the maximum entitled to you.

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

Leadership Success programme for Women – 4th March, 2013

Want to live in state of contentment, happiness and abundance in 2013?

Want to:

  • feel truly present at work and in your family roles?
  • Have ‘me’ time?
  • Feel that you have choices?
  • That you can share the responsibility and it’s not all down to you?
  • Be guilt- free?

This one day programme is designed to help you Rock Your Roles in life

BOOK NOW early bird ends 14th Jan, 2013

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Speakers:

Andrew Priestley – international speaker and award winning coach will share the ten money managing skills that WILL make a profound difference to your relationship with money

Joanna Pieters – founder of Time Wizard will share how to choose, use and manage outsourcing to help you succeed at home and at work

Amber Khan – wellness mentor and author will set you on the path to living a guilt-free life

Jenny Garrett – executive coach, speaker and author will practical steps to move you from struggling and juggling to rocking your roles in life

Find out more about us here

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Learn:

  • How to have the ‘money’ conversation that you’ve been avoiding
  • Improve your communication
  • How your leadership preference is impacting your communication
  • How to avoid the pitfalls that most Women Breadwinners fall into
  • Strategies to succeed and feel in control

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Who is it for:

Women who are the primary earner in their home

Women entrepreneurs

Women executives

***LImited to 8 particpants***

Programme Overview:

The aim of the programme is to help women like you, lead themselves to success:

Using the 12-step process designed by Jenny Garrett from her work coaching hundreds of women and outlined in the research in her book Rocking Your Role, you will:

  • Focus on your Personal and Professional Leadership skills
  • Increase your critical leadership skill of Self-Awareness
  • Understand the Emotions that may be holding you back
  • Embrace your Femininity as a strength
  • Celebrate Success
  • Action Plan

Benefits:

  • Increased Confidence in your ability to cope and succeed
  • Freedom from the shackles of guilt, resentment and shame
  • Improved sense of psychological, physical and spiritual Well-Being
  • Sense of Direction and Purpose
  • Community and Belonging through the Support of the group
  • An ILM (Institute of Leadership & Management) certificate

What have you got to lose?

No quibble money back guarantee if you dont find the day valuable

What participants have said:

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A fabulous, supportive, empowering course for female breadwinners and entrepreneurs to share ideas

Hannah Foxley, Women’s Wealth Expert
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Empowering and an eye opener

Aina Khan, Family Law Consultant

*****

Enlightening, delicate, but rich

Cherryl Martin, CMO with FTSE 100 Marketing, Sales and Business Performance Expertise

*****

Reflective of my needs

Caroline Peryagh, Director, Global Client Strategy

Book Now ***LImited to 8 participants*** early bird ends 14th January, 2013

See RockingyourRole.com for more about Jenny, her speaking engagements and events.

Speakers announced for Women Breadwinners Leadership Success Programme

Andrew Priestley ISMM-2Andrew Priestley is an award winning business coach, author and international professional speaker.

Qualified in Industrial and Organisational Psychology, Andrew helps people to both make and save more money and become more profitable.

This session will introduce you to ten money managing skills that WILL make a profound difference to your relationship with money. If your goal is to have more money you will enjoy this session. If your goal is to be debt-free this is a must.

Joanna Pieters
Joanna Pieters founded lifestyle organisation service Time Wizard after 15 years running large teams in high-pressure media businesses. Having seen friends and colleagues overwhelmed by the stress of juggling work, family, and health, she asked, ‘who can help?’ When the answer wasn’t obvious, she started Time Wizard to take on their to-do lists and daily tasks, allowing pressurised families to be healthier, happier and less stressed.

Joanna helps her clients be more successful by finding practical ways to identify and outsource appropriate areas of their lives. She helps clients see delegating at home as a sign of strength, rather than something to feel guilty about, allowing them to focus on the things that are most important to them and their families. An expert in delegation, organisation and productivity, Joanna is in regular demand from the UK media to talk on subjects as diverse as decluttering and time management.
This session will introduce you to how to choose, use and manage outsourcing to help you succeed at home and at work.
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Amber Khan is a wellness mentor, speaker, an entrepreneur &  a soon to be published author of Guilt-free Mum.
She has experience of working in the corporate environment, the pressure & responsibilities which come with it, in addition to the household responsibilities of a mother.
A health scare 2 years ago impelled her to change her lifestyle. To let go of the super mum & mummy-guilt syndromes for a healthier & sustainable future for herself & her family. She has since helped several mothers along their journey of guilt trips.
Amber is passionate about liberating mothers from ineffective practices & to put them on the path to living a guilt-free lifestyle.
and me – Jenny Garrett  423744_10150696561171514_1808655218_n

Sought after executive coach, mentor, founder of Reflexion Associates leadership consultancy and author of Rocking your Role.

I have featured extensively in the media, on programmes such as: Radio 4′s Woman’s Hour & Newstalk radio as well as writing articles and contributing to many national publications, such as Sun Employment and Glamour Magazine. I am also a blogger for the BOSS American woman’s online network. Over 10 years of experience as an executive coach and trainer has enabled me to create this practical and transformational programme.

Only 6 places left – BOOK NOW **** Early bird price only £75

Move from struggling and juggling to Rocking Your Role in life

Sound familiar:

  • Torn between work and family roles?
  • Zero ‘me’ time?
  • Feeling that you have limited choices?
  • It’s all down to you?
  • Riddled with guilt?

This one day programme is designed to move you from struggling and juggling to Rocking Your Role in life

Learn:

  • How to have the ‘money’ conversation that you’ve been avoiding
  • Improve your communication
  • How your leadership preference is impacting your communication
  • How to avoid the pitfalls that most Women Breadwinners fall into
  • Strategies to succeed and feel in control

Who is it for:

Women who are the primary earner in their home

Women entrepreneurs

Women executives

Only 6 places left – BOOK NOW **** Early bird price only £75

 

Programme Overview:

The aim of the programme is to help women like you, lead themselves to success:

Using the 12-step process designed by Jenny Garrett from her work coaching hundreds of women and outlined in the research in her book Rocking Your Role, you will:

  • Focus on your Personal and Professional Leadership skills
  • Increase your critical leadership skill of Self-Awareness
  • Understand the Emotions that may be holding you back
  • Embrace your Femininity as a strength
  • Celebrate Success
  • Action Plan

Benefits:

  • Increased Confidence in your ability to cope and succeed
  •  Freedom from the shackles of guilt, resentment and shame
  •  Improved sense of psychological, physical and spiritual Well-Being
  • Sense of Direction and Purpose
  • Community and Belonging through the Support of the group
  • An ILM (Institute of Leadership & Management) certificate

Only 6 places left – BOOK NOW **** Early bird price only £75

What participants have said:

****

A fabulous, supportive, empowering course for female breadwinners and entrepreneurs to share ideas

Hannah Foxley, Women’s Wealth Expert
****            

Empowering and an eye opener

Aina Khan, Family Law Consultant

*****         

Enlightening, delicate,  but rich

Cherryl Martin, CMO with FTSE 100 Marketing, Sales and Business Performance Expertise

*****

Reflective of my needs

Caroline Peryagh, Director, Global Client Strategy

Only 6 places left – BOOK NOW **** Early bird price only £75

Black Friday Offer

For Today Only  – Book your One Hour Skype Coaching Session for only £25

Use Your One Hour to focus on one of these areas outlined in my book Rocking Your Role

  1. Your Values – what’s at the heart and essence of what you do and your decisions
  2. Your Choices – what choices are you making, why you are making them and who owns those choices
  3. Celebrating – what is good about your current situation that can be built upon
  4. Ditching the guilt –  ways to stop guilt holding your back and sapping your energy
  5. Assumptions – noticing how others assumptions may impact your behaviour and strategies to combat this
  6. Stopping – crafting your don’t do list, what do you need to give up in order to take yourself forward
  7. Communication – what channels are you using to communication, with how and how, what can be built on, what has not been said
  8. Interdependence – ways to collaborate and recognise what and who you need to make things work
  9. Honesty – being honest with yourself about what you want
  10. Fulfilment – being clear about the fun aspects of your life and giving them importance
  11. Wellbeing – focusing on improving aspects of your physical, psychological and spiritual well being
  12. Sharing/ Planning – bringing it all together into a plan for success

I will also throw in access to a 15 minute video recording sharing the 4 keys to success for working women.

Find out more about me here – my time is usually charged out at £200 – £400 per hour to those working in corporate organisations.

I will not be repeating this offer anytime soon.

To book go to http://blackfridayskypecoachingoffer-eorg.eventbrite.com

Have a great day

Female Breadwinner Rocking her Role – Servane Mouazan

Servane Mouazan is the founding director of Ogunte, a company focused on supporting women-led social ventures. She is a female breadwinner that takes satisfaction from the work she does rather than the money she earns. We talk to her about forgetting to get paid, why she knows everything about cows and the importance of doing what you love.

Hi Servane, first off could you tell me a bit about your background.

I come from Brittany in France and grew up in an average lower middle class family. My mum was a teacher and my dad was a social worker but spent most of his time singing and writing books.

How has your family life shaped you?

My parents were divorced when I was very young. So I grew up in a single parent family but my dad was always present, he visited once a fortnight. My mum had the tough task of being breadwinner, bringing back money to the house and taking care of two young children. This is something I learnt a lot from- the difference between what you need and what you want, what’s superfluous and what is a real treat. It’s harsh and it leaves some scares sometimes but actually with time you reflect on this and say to yourself, she did pretty well, she did a good job.

What is your earliest memory of work?

I left home when I was 19 and I went travelling because I didn’t want to stay at home. So as you do I became an au pair in the Netherlands. It was crazy. I ended up in a single parent family there as well! I lived with a single mum speaking French much better than me but I learnt Dutch through singing, university and through post. That was my first experience of being a breadwinner in the 90s, earning money by being a singer and au pair – it made me very excited.

What did you do after your degree?

After my studies I returned to Brittany but with little experience I found it hard to find a job. Fortunately, I could speak a range of languages so found work as an interpreter. That led me into a few funny situations!

I ended up working in the farming industry taking Dutch people on trips to visit dairy farms. I knew everything about cows! Imagining putting that on a CV- it definitely shows you have a broad interest in life. Language has been an essential asset to my life and enabled me to earn quite a substantial amount of money, anywhere and at any time.

How did being a female breadwinner and a social entrepreneur come about for you?

I moved to the Netherlands again and became involved in volunteering for community development initiatives it is here that I started my journey in social enterprise. Through this work I found opportunities to help on projects in Brazil. The people I worked with at the time were telling me I was good at what I did, so why don’t I charge? So my first big story was: I had forgotten to charge for what I did! Not so good if you need to be a breadwinner.

How does it feel to be a female breadwinner?

The satisfaction is more about delivering the work and achieving something. Seeing the connections between people and bringing people together was a revelation for me. It is a rewarding experience because of the understanding that there is a point in doing all this.

Did you make any mistakes on the way?

Well when you start you of course realise you know nothing about business and that is a job in itself and you have to learn everything. I remember I organised some gigs and shows to put the light on some development initiatives, the first band I booked cost me much more than I had been paid to show them. Disaster! I learned very quickly.

Who are your role models or the important figures in your life?

Apart from my dad, in the 90s my match in energy was a singer called Skin from Skunk Anansie. I liked her because of the energy she showed on stage, her political involvement and her directed lyrics. It was a point when my interests and my passions were merging; politics, activism and performing arts.

Do you have any mentors?

On the activist side when I was in Brazil there was one artist that was particularly important to me, Marcello Uka. Sadly 11 years ago he got shot in a street robbery and he ended up in a wheelchair. Despite all the pain and the suffering he continued to deliver and compose songs. He is very strongly involved in all sorts of campaigning- when I first met him I thought we’ve got the same ideas but he has them in a good order; I’ve got them in a random order. So he became a sort of mentor to me and still is. He is going for mayor in the city of Rio in Brazil- he just never stops.

What’s been most challenging for you as a female breadwinner and social entrepreneur?

For me I can’t dissociate the money making from my political involvement or my activism or my values. Which can be bad because at the same time I have priorities; I have rent to pay, I have a son to feed so I will always need to find a cause to fight and be paid for.

That said I still do a lot of things for free, too much according to my mentor. If I say yes to too many things I am creating my own poverty, meaning I’m not sticking to my own values so I have learned it is ok to say no.

Confidence is a volatile currency and we are the first ones to sabotage ourselves so we need to always check every day about our values; are we keeping up with them? Money is part of it- what it brings, what it enables you to do and how it helps you survive but you need to be able to enjoy what you do as well.

What’s good about being a female breadwinner?

Well it is probably what is good about being a male breadwinner. I don’t put any difference on being a female breadwinner. This probably comes from my dad, when he married again he always used to say, my wife is doing work at home I just happen to be on a payroll outside the house but the money I bring is paying us all. I like that.

Female or male it depends on the stereotypes we follow. It’s about where you place value and being paid is just a technical question. My dad values what my mum and step mum do at home. But sometimes it feels like the whole of society doesn’t value what is being done at home, so there is a feeling that women will get something extra by working outside this context.

Do you think the currency of work is a problem?

Well yes. Another person I admire is Edgar Cahn founder of Time Banking. He says the whole point of one man hour as a currency is a very interesting thing because the economy doesn’t take into account all the contributions of the volunteers and the carers, and that there is a discrepancy for how we are accounting for these workers. There are some things missing from the state’s accounts. Unfortunately a lot of women are part of that category; they are in situations where they provide some sort of service that is never accounted for in pound value. We need to pay attention to that but things are changing slowly.

What do you think are some of the responsibilities of a female breadwinner?

It is important to think about how we spend our money. There is the breadwinner, the bread eater and the crumbles. Good can come when money is distributed in a new way. If someone can earn money and make it circulate so it creates more wealth and more value along the way- then that is a different category of breadwinner.

What legacy do you think you leave as a female breadwinner?

Depending on how you make your money is the nature of your legacy. I have chosen to be a social entrepreneur and I have chosen to help other social entrepreneurs and activists. That’s my thing, that’s my gig. I am not happy if I have to do something else!

What about the legacy for your son?

For my son I don’t think you can teach a child anything but manners and values. If he can say ‘thank you’, ‘please’ and be solution focused leaving his surroundings and environment in a better state than he found it, then I have done my job.

What are the top 3 lessons you’ve learnt as a result of being a female breadwinner?

Learning to charge for my work is number one! Other than that be sure you work with your assets,  try not to depend on anyone or any state – sometimes you have to and it is ok but it is not a long term solution at all- and finally create opportunities for others because it will eventually create opportunities for you.

Laugh, Balance, Be Well – National Work-Life Week 2012

LAUGH, BALANCE, BE WELL

Do you want to?

1. Transition quickly and effectively from your professional to personal life

2. Learn the five Steps To Discovering YOUR Balance

3. Find out the 3 Keys to High Performance and Happiness at Work and Beyond

4. Create balance

5. Focus on Your Inner Wellbeing

6. Take Responsibility for Your Health and wellbeing

7. Find inner joy and strength through Quantum Laughter & Happiness

Let us show you how.

5 Days of Free access to 7 International experts with over 100 years of experience in work life balance, stress reduction, personal and professional development.

During National Work-Life week 24th – 28th September, 2012 each expert will be offering a FREE one hour session that you can access from the comfort of your desk via Skilio.com. Book in for your session now as places are limited.

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Rocking Your Role: Female Breadwinners Leadership Success Programme 20th September, 2012

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