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Floella Benjamins 4 C’s philosophy on life

Floella Benjamin

At the age of 64 Floella Benjamin is still lively and youthful. For those of my generation Floella is best known for being a presenter on the children’s TV show Play School

What you might not know is that on 28 June 2010, Lady Benjamin was introduced to the House of Lords as a Life Peer nominated by the Liberal Democrats with title Baroness Benjamin, of Beckenham in the County of Kent.

In this role Floella is a campaigner for families and especially children. I met Floella once, the experience evoked so many childhood memories that I babbled like a schoolgirl and she politely and kindly smiled at me – I imagine this happens to her all the time.

This week Floella led a talk on Women in the 21st Century at the House of Lords, which I joined online. She shared her 4 C’s philosophy for life and I am sharing them with you below:

1 – Consideration – not to be judgemental – you never know what others situations are, just because they are not reacting in the way you want them to, or by your rules, it doesn’t mean that it’s personal.

2 – Contentment – have a happy and contented heart – don’t be jealous of others, instead learn to live with less. She asked ‘Why are we neglecting our children, why do we always want more?’

3 – Confidence – have high self esteem, high self worth – you need to be able to look in the mirror and say I like that person looking back at me. The more you give, the more you will receive, even if that wasn’t your intention.

4 – Courage – stand up for truth – always stand up for what your believe in!

Floella also mentioned the specific challenges that women have, such as being invisible in the workplace and she said that black women may have to take their foot off the accelerator so not as to be perceived as aggressive in the work place.

Her comment that most resonated with me was ‘women are like babies, throw them in the deep end and they’ll survive’

So what do you think about Floella’s 4C’s? It”s likely one will stand out for you that you will particularly need to work on. Take a look and work out why and what you might need to do.

Looking at 64 year old Floella, this philosophy obviously has anti ageing effects, so its worth a try!

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at and sign up for my newsletter


Difficult, but not impossible

As my grandmother starts her third week in hospital with pneumonia, I have been struck by her ability to languish in a place of not knowing.

When I visited her yesterday I felt that it would be helpful for her to know why she was in hospital and what the apparatus surrounding her was for.  After my probably quite long winded explanation she turned to me and said that she was now worried because she understood the full extent of her condition.

I then apologised but told her that I wanted her to understand that the staff in the hospital were trying to help rather than hinder her recovery.

She then thanked me for my intention.

The good news is that she has a very short memory and by tomorrow won’t recall it anyway, phew!

But I am left feeling impressed with her ability to be in a place of not knowing for this long and be Ok with it.

What helps her do this?

  • Faith? Probably
  • Acceptance? Most definitely
  • Contentment? Yes I think we’ve hit the spot, my granny has never really wanted more than she has

How difficult is it to be content in today’s society, when we are encouraged to want more, to be more, and to achieve more.

How difficult is it to accept your lot when we know so much more about what other’s have and are prone to comparison.

How difficult it is to have faith when we know that atrocities and disasters happen so frequently.

Difficult but not impossible, if my 76 year old granny can do it, I think you can do it too.

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