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Women – do you value work-life balance more than salary and position? LinkedIn says you do

This really interesting study via LinkedIn has revealed Global Trends for Women and Work

  • Womens definition of professional success has changed in the last 5-10 years
  • Work-life balance is more highly valued than salary and position
  • Women are concerned about a lack of investment in their ‘professional development’ and ‘lack of a clear career path’

Work-Life balance is key for working women and working families and will be very individual. How do you balance that with wanting to drive your career forward.  Is wanting balance still seen very much as  a lack of commitment to your role and career?  are we really willing to sacrifice income for balance, or is that only when we are already financially secure?

How do you get the right balance for you, join the Rocking Your Role LinkedIn group to discuss this further

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I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

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Exclusive – 50 Tried and Tested Business Tips – Final Day and full resource

 

Sage 50 Tried and tested Business Tips

Sage 50 Tried and tested Business Tips

Welcome to the final day of my sharing exclusive tips from Sage’s 50 Tried and Tested business tips resource, that I have been given early access to as a Sage Business Expert.

The resource has the following sections:

  1. Start Your Business
  2. Grow Your Business
  3. Manage Cash Flow
  4. Control Your Costs
  5. Work Life Balance
  6. Employing People
  7. Beating Business Fears

Yesterday I shared a practical tip from the Employing People and today I am giving you access to the full resource and a final tip on Beating Business Fears.

Todays Tip from the Beating Business Fears is:

Step out of your comfort zone

Everything that you desire, wish for, dream of, everything you want is outside of your comfort zone, so you need to step out to get it. Here are the keys to stepping-out:

• Accept, face, embrace, and push through your fears to break through your comfort zone

• Learn how to embrace the uncomfortable every day with daily actions

• Every time you will stretch outside of your box, you will grow (it is a never-ending process)

• It takes courage to step out of your comfort zone, so have someone to stand by your side as you do

Your ability to move forward depends on your ability to make decisions and on your ability to step out of your comfort zone: take actions and make it happen.

And here it is, the full resource from Sage 50 Tried and Tested Business Tips, I do hope you find it useful

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners.

Exclusive – 50 Tried and Tested Business Tips – Day 6

 

Sage 50 Tried and Tested Business Tips

Sage 50 Tried and Tested Business Tips

Welcome to Day 6 of my sharing exclusive tips from Sage’s 50 Tried and Tested business tips resource, that I have been given early access to as a Sage Business Expert.

The resource has the following sections:

  1. Start Your Business
  2. Grow Your Business
  3. Manage Cash Flow
  4. Control Your Costs
  5. Work Life Balance
  6. Employing People
  7. Beating Business Fears

Yesterday I shared a practical tip from the Work Life Balance section, and tomorrow, I will give you access to the full resource and a final tip on Beating Business Fears.

Do keep posted.

Todays Tip from the Employing People Sections is:

Hire people who are better than you

The best piece of business advice I got was “Don’t be afraid to hire people who are better than you are”. I liked that. Be humble and you’ll get great people on board who can maybe even teach you a thing or two along the way.

 

You are never going to be perfect in every way, and it’s never good to surround yourself with people just like you, even though it feels that it would make life easier to do so.  In the  long term you’ll miss out on the different perspectives, ways of doing things and innovation that comes from difference.  So have an open mind and don’t be intimated if you don’t know as much as your staff on a particular subject, that’s what they are there for.

 

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Tomorrow I’ll share a tip on Beating Business Fears and the full resource from the Sage 50 Tried and tested business tips.

Miss interdependent 


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Ok, I am the first to admit that I pride myself on being pretty independent, I can handle a drill well enough to put up a shelf, change a fuse and I can cook too and I want my daughter to be the same.

Like me, from a young age perhaps you we were encouraged to stand on your own two feet so you didn’t have to depend on anyone else. Becoming a female breadwinner might be a symbol of this accomplishment for you.

But in reality independence is an illusion as it is a state of being that only exists within interdependence. In my work as a leadership coach I use the Hoberman Sphere as a visual aid to help leaders understand why. The model consists of a large interlinked sphere made up of tiny parts that can collapse to a fraction of its original size once pressure is applied to any one of the connecting pieces of the system.

Your position as main earner might mean you sometimes believe the world revolves around you. But you very quickly close your world down when you fail to think of yourself as part of a system of interconnected dependencies like the Hoberman Sphere. As a breadwinner there is no doubt that you are an integral part of your family system and essential to the whole but a complex network of interdependencies operate in the background to help you carry out your role, such as a stay at home dad, carers, good friends. Without them your system, like any living thing that is not nurturerd will die.

It’s important not to let your independence as a main earner trick you into thinking you don’t need anyone or that your actions don’t create a reaction. In my book Rocking your Role: the ‘how to’ guide to success for female breadwinners I provide tips to avoid slipping into this trap. Here are a few to get you started.

Map your interdependencies

Think about the individuals that form your system and how these relationships are doing at the moment. Which areas are strong and which are in need of development? What would happen if one of these links were to break under pressure? Don’t forget you have multiple systems made up of family, work, community, and friends. You might need to distance them or bring them closer together in order to make them function better.

Nourish your systems

If any part of your system is starved it will collapse and diminish. Nourish the elements of your various systems with whatever they need to thrive. This could be time together, further training or development, caring words, quality attention, intimacy or appreciation. But be sure to consider exactly what those in your system need from their point of view and not yours!

Don’t act alone

Discuss and explore decisions with others instead of going full steam ahead. This approach will ensure those that are impacted can put things in place to cope or are just made more aware – helping to avoid any heated arguments or hurt feelings later on. If you need to study to develop your career for example, think about what this means for your family unit. The route offers career options, increased earning potential and a way to be a role model for children but it can also take away quality time and money which if not accounted for in the right way might derail your studies anyway.

Keep flexible

With so much going on you might think a rigid structure that is set in stone is the answer to keep all the plates spinning. But being flexible is the key to making your complex network of systems operate seamlessly. This attitude will enable you to cope with new challenges rather than crumble. So if you need to work on a project for a few weeks, adjust your system appropriately. This might involve explaining to your kids you can’t pick them up from school but catching up on that special time elsewhere in the week.

Independence is great but is often an overplayed strength. Interdependence is that one step better as you and your whole system can flourish. Nothing is stopping you from being an individual within your system and you can still be mistress of your own destiny but by acknowledging your interdependencies you can make your corner of the world thrive.

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

Leadership Success programme for Women – 4th March, 2013

Want to live in state of contentment, happiness and abundance in 2013?

Want to:

  • feel truly present at work and in your family roles?
  • Have ‘me’ time?
  • Feel that you have choices?
  • That you can share the responsibility and it’s not all down to you?
  • Be guilt- free?

This one day programme is designed to help you Rock Your Roles in life

BOOK NOW early bird ends 14th Jan, 2013

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Speakers:

Andrew Priestley – international speaker and award winning coach will share the ten money managing skills that WILL make a profound difference to your relationship with money

Joanna Pieters – founder of Time Wizard will share how to choose, use and manage outsourcing to help you succeed at home and at work

Amber Khan – wellness mentor and author will set you on the path to living a guilt-free life

Jenny Garrett – executive coach, speaker and author will practical steps to move you from struggling and juggling to rocking your roles in life

Find out more about us here

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Learn:

  • How to have the ‘money’ conversation that you’ve been avoiding
  • Improve your communication
  • How your leadership preference is impacting your communication
  • How to avoid the pitfalls that most Women Breadwinners fall into
  • Strategies to succeed and feel in control

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Who is it for:

Women who are the primary earner in their home

Women entrepreneurs

Women executives

***LImited to 8 particpants***

Programme Overview:

The aim of the programme is to help women like you, lead themselves to success:

Using the 12-step process designed by Jenny Garrett from her work coaching hundreds of women and outlined in the research in her book Rocking Your Role, you will:

  • Focus on your Personal and Professional Leadership skills
  • Increase your critical leadership skill of Self-Awareness
  • Understand the Emotions that may be holding you back
  • Embrace your Femininity as a strength
  • Celebrate Success
  • Action Plan

Benefits:

  • Increased Confidence in your ability to cope and succeed
  • Freedom from the shackles of guilt, resentment and shame
  • Improved sense of psychological, physical and spiritual Well-Being
  • Sense of Direction and Purpose
  • Community and Belonging through the Support of the group
  • An ILM (Institute of Leadership & Management) certificate

What have you got to lose?

No quibble money back guarantee if you dont find the day valuable

What participants have said:

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A fabulous, supportive, empowering course for female breadwinners and entrepreneurs to share ideas

Hannah Foxley, Women’s Wealth Expert
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Empowering and an eye opener

Aina Khan, Family Law Consultant

*****

Enlightening, delicate, but rich

Cherryl Martin, CMO with FTSE 100 Marketing, Sales and Business Performance Expertise

*****

Reflective of my needs

Caroline Peryagh, Director, Global Client Strategy

Book Now ***LImited to 8 participants*** early bird ends 14th January, 2013

See RockingyourRole.com for more about Jenny, her speaking engagements and events.

Women – How to Ditch the Guilt 


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Feminist writer, Erica Jong, wrote in her 1973 novel the Fear of Flying: ‘Show me a woman who doesn’t feel guilty and I will show you a man’. While some 21st century men might groan in protest at this slightly skewed view of the sexes the statement holds some truth even today.

A survey by Stylist Magazine in 2010 found that 96% of women feel guilty at least once a day. Friendships, relationships, work and body shape, were the main causes. Of the 1,324 women and 55 men questioned by the magazine, 92% claimed that men felt less guilt than women.

I have to admit that I have also found this. In my work as a leadership coach and author I’ve noticed that the Achilles heel for many senior female leaders and female breadwinners is often guilt. I find women more than men have internalised this feeling as if it were a natural part of being. Guilt is almost like an accessory that they carry around all day like a heavy handbag making them weary and imposing on every aspect of their lives.

It’s such a shame as guilt is a useless emotion that is simply just a platform for wishing and imagining. You wish you could spend more time with your children and as a result you might imagine them crying all day long when you leave to go to work. Guilt doesn’t allow you to live in the reality that your child probably stopped crying the moment you left or that you actually really enjoy your job as much as your family life and don’t want to sacrifice time there.

This place where we feed fears leads to poor health and poor decision making. You might for example feel the only way to alleviate guilt brought on by your position as the main earner is to become a stay-at-home mum or to leave work early. But would sacrificing your career to feel less guilty really help anyone?

What feeds your guilt? We all have buttons and unfortunately those closest to us seem to know how to activate ‘guilt trip’ mode – especially kids. In my book Rocking your Role: the ‘how to’ guide to success for female breadwinners I suggest it’s time to ditch the guilt once and for all. The framework I set out isn’t designed to make you an unfeeling robot but a more emotionally stable person who can see things for what they are and get on with enjoying life!

Here are a few tips on how to ditch the guilt for good:

Stop beating yourself up– being the main earner should be an enjoyable time for you so stop turning it into a nightmare and accept things for what they are. You might not be able to do it all but you shouldn’t beat yourself up about it. Constantly battling yourself will derail your family, career and health.

Replace guilt with trust – you need to trust that for others to be happy you don’t have to be unhappy. Trust that others can cope and that you don’t need to control everything. If you share responsibilities be it with your family or partner you will be relieved from guilt because the load is no longer all on you.

Don’t be a martyr – women can be infuriatingly self-sacrificing sometimes, never allowing themselves to do things for their own happiness, splurge on treats or say no to people for fear of letting them down or not appearing perfect. Often this puts us in a position of the martyr but remember self-sacrifice is ultimately never really rewarded or appreciated so don’t let guilt inform this sort of decision.

Give 100%-don’t sit at work thinking you should be at home with the kids and likewise don’t sit at home with the kids thinking you should be at work! Give 100% whatever the situation and don’t let guilty thoughts distract you from having a good time and enjoying yourself.

If you leave your guilt about being the main earner unchecked it can become the centre of your universe very quickly. It can lead to heated arguments, depression or even poor decision making.  Guilt will drain your energy and take away from the freedom you have to enjoy your life and time with loved ones. So don’t let it win, ditch your guilt today.

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com

Speakers announced for Women Breadwinners Leadership Success Programme

Andrew Priestley ISMM-2Andrew Priestley is an award winning business coach, author and international professional speaker.

Qualified in Industrial and Organisational Psychology, Andrew helps people to both make and save more money and become more profitable.

This session will introduce you to ten money managing skills that WILL make a profound difference to your relationship with money. If your goal is to have more money you will enjoy this session. If your goal is to be debt-free this is a must.

Joanna Pieters
Joanna Pieters founded lifestyle organisation service Time Wizard after 15 years running large teams in high-pressure media businesses. Having seen friends and colleagues overwhelmed by the stress of juggling work, family, and health, she asked, ‘who can help?’ When the answer wasn’t obvious, she started Time Wizard to take on their to-do lists and daily tasks, allowing pressurised families to be healthier, happier and less stressed.

Joanna helps her clients be more successful by finding practical ways to identify and outsource appropriate areas of their lives. She helps clients see delegating at home as a sign of strength, rather than something to feel guilty about, allowing them to focus on the things that are most important to them and their families. An expert in delegation, organisation and productivity, Joanna is in regular demand from the UK media to talk on subjects as diverse as decluttering and time management.
This session will introduce you to how to choose, use and manage outsourcing to help you succeed at home and at work.
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Amber Khan is a wellness mentor, speaker, an entrepreneur &  a soon to be published author of Guilt-free Mum.
She has experience of working in the corporate environment, the pressure & responsibilities which come with it, in addition to the household responsibilities of a mother.
A health scare 2 years ago impelled her to change her lifestyle. To let go of the super mum & mummy-guilt syndromes for a healthier & sustainable future for herself & her family. She has since helped several mothers along their journey of guilt trips.
Amber is passionate about liberating mothers from ineffective practices & to put them on the path to living a guilt-free lifestyle.
and me – Jenny Garrett  423744_10150696561171514_1808655218_n

Sought after executive coach, mentor, founder of Reflexion Associates leadership consultancy and author of Rocking your Role.

I have featured extensively in the media, on programmes such as: Radio 4′s Woman’s Hour & Newstalk radio as well as writing articles and contributing to many national publications, such as Sun Employment and Glamour Magazine. I am also a blogger for the BOSS American woman’s online network. Over 10 years of experience as an executive coach and trainer has enabled me to create this practical and transformational programme.

Only 6 places left – BOOK NOW **** Early bird price only £75

Move from struggling and juggling to Rocking Your Role in life

Sound familiar:

  • Torn between work and family roles?
  • Zero ‘me’ time?
  • Feeling that you have limited choices?
  • It’s all down to you?
  • Riddled with guilt?

This one day programme is designed to move you from struggling and juggling to Rocking Your Role in life

Learn:

  • How to have the ‘money’ conversation that you’ve been avoiding
  • Improve your communication
  • How your leadership preference is impacting your communication
  • How to avoid the pitfalls that most Women Breadwinners fall into
  • Strategies to succeed and feel in control

Who is it for:

Women who are the primary earner in their home

Women entrepreneurs

Women executives

Only 6 places left – BOOK NOW **** Early bird price only £75

 

Programme Overview:

The aim of the programme is to help women like you, lead themselves to success:

Using the 12-step process designed by Jenny Garrett from her work coaching hundreds of women and outlined in the research in her book Rocking Your Role, you will:

  • Focus on your Personal and Professional Leadership skills
  • Increase your critical leadership skill of Self-Awareness
  • Understand the Emotions that may be holding you back
  • Embrace your Femininity as a strength
  • Celebrate Success
  • Action Plan

Benefits:

  • Increased Confidence in your ability to cope and succeed
  •  Freedom from the shackles of guilt, resentment and shame
  •  Improved sense of psychological, physical and spiritual Well-Being
  • Sense of Direction and Purpose
  • Community and Belonging through the Support of the group
  • An ILM (Institute of Leadership & Management) certificate

Only 6 places left – BOOK NOW **** Early bird price only £75

What participants have said:

****

A fabulous, supportive, empowering course for female breadwinners and entrepreneurs to share ideas

Hannah Foxley, Women’s Wealth Expert
****            

Empowering and an eye opener

Aina Khan, Family Law Consultant

*****         

Enlightening, delicate,  but rich

Cherryl Martin, CMO with FTSE 100 Marketing, Sales and Business Performance Expertise

*****

Reflective of my needs

Caroline Peryagh, Director, Global Client Strategy

Only 6 places left – BOOK NOW **** Early bird price only £75

Money, Money, Money in a rich woman’s world

Many British couples are burying their heads in the sand over their financial situations. One in seven1 (14 per cent) couples over the age of 40 – or around 4.22 million people – admit they have never discussed their finances, according to new research from Prudential.
Fears about having awkward conversations drives this behaviour, with 15 per cent of those surveyed admitting they feel uncomfortable talking to their partners about financial planning.
A concern that these conversations will boil over into arguments is another reason that couples avoid talking about their finances – money is the third most likely subject to cause arguments among couples, with nearly one in four (23 per cent) claiming that they fight over finances, ahead of work (10 per cent), and politics and religion (5 per cent). Only household chores (27 per cent) and disputes about family (30 per cent) are more likely to cause disagreements.
Even for the majority of couples who do discuss their retirement plans, long-term issues are likely to be side-lined, as short-term everyday expenses take priority. Daily living costs and household bills are regularly discussed by the majority of couples (60 per cent and 52 per cent respectively), and one in three couples (34 per cent) speak about the costs of home improvements, large purchases and luxuries.
However, discussions about long-term planning are far less prevalent, with only 16 per cent of couples claiming to regularly talk about retirement income and pension planning. Only three per cent of couples claim they have had conversations about inheritance planning and tax.
Vince Smith-Hughes, retirement expert at Prudential said: “Money can be a tough topic to discuss at the best of times. Many couples prefer to steer clear of conversations about finances, and especially discussions about longer-term issues like retirement which might feel light-years away.

When was the last time you spoke to your partner about money? Unfortunately, sex and money are the subjects least spoken about in relationships. Left un-discussed, the issue of money can lead to resentment, shame and guilt all seething under the surface.

As a female breadwinner, in an effort not to emasculate or disempower you may have chosen to avoid money conversations with your partner, leaving you with the full weight of responsibility. On the other hand you might have thought it unnecessary to talk and behave as you like because it’s your cash, assuming that your partners silence means that it is OK.

Whatever the dynamic, conversations about money need to happen so you and your family can live a much richer life. In my book Rocking Your Role: The how to guide to success for female breadwinners I provide a framework for that conversation. Here are a few tips from female breadwinners I have met.

Identify attitudes– defining attitudes towards money is a good way to get the conversation started. Are you the same or different from your partner? If you don’t share the same values talking will help draw out some of the tensions. If you are too similar it might be better to discuss what you can both do differently to make the most out of money.

Make it practical – put all emotions aside and make money about practicality rather than power. You are in a great position to use your voice to break down taboos and decide what money means to your family.

Work as a unit – make choices about how you use and manage money together- a family unit can’t have people moving in different directions.

Join up accounts? – a joint account is one option that doesn’t work for everyone, it can make household and family spending a joint decision rather than a point of contention. Money can move freely and it doesn’t have to be divided up so obviously. You can always put money aside in a separate account as well.

Money conversations can help you make the right decisions about who manages it, what purchases and investments are made and how to build a future for your family. What happens as a result might surprise you! One woman I spoke to felt that women needed to earn at least equal to their partners to have an equal say in the relationship!

Talking about money is the only way to destroy the power it holds over us. It can be uncomfortable, embarrassing and stressful for everyone involved but having it out in the open is better than letting resentments fester on both sides.

Be the brave and courageous lioness I know that you are and start the conversation. Let me know how you get on!

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – I help professional working women move from struggling and juggling to rocking their many roles in life. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com

5 critical ways to avoid running on empty

Yesterday I was driving along and as I turned a corner my car stopped. I tried to restart it to no avail. I looked at the aeroplane like dash board of mine and saw the red fuel light flashing and realised that I was empty. The shame is that this was no surprise, it had been flashing for a few days but I had chosen to ignore it, I kept pushing my luck driving a few extra miles and hoping that my car would get me there. The car finally said enough is enough. Luckily there were kind strangers who would stop, push my car and drive me to the petrol station to get fuel, so that I could be on my way again. The experience got me thinking about how many of us are running on empty. Not refuelling and hoping that we still reach our destination. For you the fuel might be:

• A healthy diet
• Exercise
• Spiritual space
• Family time
• Friendships
• Relaxation
• Learning
• Sleep

We often let these things get to dangerously low levels before we refuel, and as a result our health, wealth, relationships will suffer.
Why do we do it?

– Arrogance – we think we’re invincible
– Prioritising the wrong things e.g. work, others
– Lack of self-awareness and self listening

Here are 5 top tips to prevent you running out of fuel

1. Schedule in resourcefulness time – what makes you feel good and energised.

2. Sleep – It provides physical renewal and hormone regulation. Without it you are more likely to become sick, depressed, weight gain and a lack of concentration.

3. Plan your food intake, sugary snacks, fast food and caffeine, are quick uppers but you come down just as quickly. Choose fresh foods that nourish you and slowly release energy.

4. Do something just for fun at least once a month.

5. Take 5 minutes a day, just to listen to You and Breathe.

And remember if you do break down like I did. Always ask for help, there are a lot of wonderful people out there.

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. See my Certificated Rocking Your Role: Women Breadwinners and Entrepreneurs programme, it might be just the development that you’re looking for.

Laugh, Balance, Be Well – National Work-Life Week 2012

LAUGH, BALANCE, BE WELL

Do you want to?

1. Transition quickly and effectively from your professional to personal life

2. Learn the five Steps To Discovering YOUR Balance

3. Find out the 3 Keys to High Performance and Happiness at Work and Beyond

4. Create balance

5. Focus on Your Inner Wellbeing

6. Take Responsibility for Your Health and wellbeing

7. Find inner joy and strength through Quantum Laughter & Happiness

Let us show you how.

5 Days of Free access to 7 International experts with over 100 years of experience in work life balance, stress reduction, personal and professional development.

During National Work-Life week 24th – 28th September, 2012 each expert will be offering a FREE one hour session that you can access from the comfort of your desk via Skilio.com. Book in for your session now as places are limited.

Find out more here http://www.scribd.com/doc/105417609/National-Work-Life-Week-Final-Flyer-09-09-12

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