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Leadership Roles – How to Mentor someone

It’s no secret that I am a big fan of mentoring. I mentor women as part of the ASPIRE programme, the Cherie Blair Foundation, CityMothers and individuals that have approached me. I was very flattered to be shortlisted for the PRECIOUS Mentor of the Year in 2012.

I see mentoring women as a duty to that I am delighted to perform, when the chemistry is right and my capacity can cope with it.

Perhaps you have thought of being a mentor, but weren’t sure if you had the skills or how to start.  I came across this 3 minute video which I thought you would find informative

I’ll leave you with my top tips for mentors:

  • Get down and dirty – you can’t mentor from a distance, you have to get your hands dirty and understand the nitty gritty of what your mentee does.
  • Open doors – use your connections and your networks to open doors for your mentee.
  • Don’t let your mentee off the hook, keep them focused and on track to act.
  • Meet regularly – weekly or bi-monthly to keep the momentum going, the sessions can be short and sweet.
  • Be prepared to learn as much as your mentee does.

I really hope that it helps

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

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Epitome of Motherhood – must watch for busy Mums

The only videos that I usually recommend are TED Videos, they are inspiring and thought provoking.

However this video really resonated with me, surprisingly it’s a FIAT 500L advert, but it’s entitled Motherhood.

The Motherhood rap video details the realities of life as a modern mum and has notched up over one million views

It made me chuckle anyway

Let me know what you think

 

I am Jenny Garrett, Executive Coach, founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy and author or Rocking Your Role – the how to guide to success for female breadwinners. Find out more about me, my programmes, speaking engagements and training at rockingyourrole.com and sign up for my newsletter

Woohoo I have been shortlisted….please vote

You may remember a week or so ago I advised that I had been nominated for the Women Inspiring Women Award for coaching and mentoring, sponsored by Damsels In Success.

Well today I found out that I have been shortlisted !!!!

I am absolutely delighted, ecstatic, flattered and chuffed to bits.

Thanks to those who nominated me, you are all wonderful.

Now I would really like your help, I’d love to be the one who goes up, all dressed up and feeling proud and collects the award for my category on 9th June.  It would be the best birthday present ever – it’s just 3 days before my 41st.

It would also be a fantastic first for me as I have never won an award.

So please support me –  follow the link and vote, please share on social media and encourage others to vote too.

The more votes I get the more likely it is that I’ll win.

Thanks in advance

With love

Jenny

Throughout the month of June, I will be sending out daily inspiration and tips for female breadwinners, sign up to newsletter ar www.rockingyourrole.com to ensure that you receive them direct to your inbox

My book Rocking Your Role – the ‘how to’ guide to success for Female Breadwinners, will be out on 28th June 2012

If you want to chat, gain support and read the latest from other female breadwinners, join my Rocking Your Role LinkedIn Group

Tweet me @jennifergarrett

www.reflexion-uk.co.uk

I have been nominated…

I am delighted to say that I have been nominated for the Women Inspiring Women Awards 2012 sponsored by Damsels in Success.

I have been nominated for the Coaching and Mentoring Award – (the woman whose coaching/mentoring has transformed the lives of others)

As part of the process I have had to create a 2 minute video about what do

Based on my bio and the video I will find out later in the week if I have been short – listed

If I am I will asking for your help as I will need votes to win

Wish me luck and thanks so much for reading my blog, it means a lot to me.

ps – you’ll get  a sneak peak of the book cover of my forthcoming book – Rocking Your Role, if you watch it.

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Throughout the month of June, I will be sending out daily inspiration and tips for female breadwinners, sign up to my newsletter to ensure that you receive them direct to your inbox

My book Rocking Your Role – the ‘how to’ guide to success for Female Breadwinners, will be out on 28th June 2012

If you want to chat, gain support and read the latest from other female breadwinners, join my Rocking Your Role LinkedIn Group

Tweet me @jennifergarrett

www.reflexion-uk.co.uk

The ‘white elephant’ in the room?

I came across this video clip of the UK Show Loose Women on the subject of Women Breadwinners that took place in February 2010 and thought I’d share it with you.

Just watching the video clip highlights the emotional reaction women can have on the subject and that it is a very different experience for different people.  What stood out for me is that I felt that they were underplaying it’s significance. (this will happen when you try to tackle a subject with only 5 minutes, I guess) However, their conclusion that being a breadwinner wife shouldn’t be a problem was for me inadequate.

Just because something shouldn’t be a problem in modern society, doesn’t mean it isn’t!

In the clip, Kate Thornton summarises one of the biggest issues for female breadwinners, not talking about the ‘white elephant’ in room. I am not sure if the elephant needs to be white, but it is definitely something that is taboo or left unsaid.  Zoe Tyler says that she has always paid for everything breadwinner or not, this confused me, why? Carolyn McGiffin’s makes the point that we are all equal. This is in my opinion naive, we will hold different power in our relationships at different times, how we use it is what matters!

I would love to hear you reaction to it. It’ only four and a half minutes long, you can view it here

I also found these two tiny videos that provided a very literal description of the role of breadwinner, see them here – video one and video two.

Enjoy the videos and have a great hump day.

My book Rocking Your Role – the ‘how to’ guide to success for Female Breadwinners, will be out in June 2012

If you want to chat, gain support and read the latest from other female breadwinners, join my Rocking Your Role LinkedIn Group

Or sign up for my newsletter or tweet me @jennifergarrett

www.reflexion-uk.co.uk

Female Breadwinners – Stay Angry!

I have recently completely changed my view on anger.  Previously I felt it was something to be avoided at all costs and steered away from people who I felt got too heated. My opinion only changed when I attended an event hosted by women activists in edication and asked what was driving them. They told me it was anger.

Anger about inequality, mistreatment and injustice, which made me realise that it was their rage that mobilised them to action. They were channelling their anger for good; for positive change and without it they would have probably been sitting at home doing something very different.

Take Betty Makoni for example, she is a Zambabwean and worldwide acclaimed defender of girls’ rights.  Through sheer hard work, her organization grew from a classroom to a global level.  Her experience of being raped at age six and losing her mother to domestic violence transformed her from victim to activist.

To be honest I started to feel a little jealous that I wasn’t angry enough – I racked my brains about what I could get fired up about but then I thought that if I had to search so hard for it, it probably wasn’t there.

However, there have been times when I have been angry and instead of channelling this into something positive, I turned it into either feeling like a victim, or blaming others – only now do I realise that nothing changes from choosing inaction.

Anger can spur an entire culture to change for the better, as witnessed by the civil rights movement of the 1960s and the earlier women’s suffrage movement. In her book … Carol Tavris says:

“Imagine what the women’s suffrage movement would have been like if women had said, ‘Guys, it’s really so unfair, we’re nice people and we’re human beings too. Won’t you listen to us and give us the vote? To paraphrase Malcolm X, ‘there’s a time and a place for anger, where nothing else will do.’”

What are you angry about? What do you bemoan on a daily basis?  What sort of injustice, mistreatment or lack of fairness riles you?   And are you doing anything about it?

Next time don’t just rant or simmer in the corner, do something.  Mobilise your rage into something positive; something that makes a difference. The odds are that there are lots of people just as angry as you, waiting for a leader or to form a group.

You don’t have to give up your life; it can be a phone call, a well written letter, a blog or a YouTube  video saying what you think.

Whatever it is I know it will change your view about anger and help you manage it better too.

My book Rocking Your Role – the ‘how to’ guide to success for Female Breadwinners, will be out in June 2012

If you want to chat, gain support and read the latest from other female breadwinners, join my Rocking Your Role LinkedIn Group

Or sign up for my newsletter or tweet me @jennifergarrett

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